Are You Often Overwhelmed By Life’s Challenges?

Although you face ongoing pressure always to be strong, do you secretly feel lost or numb inside? Have you struggled to express yourself openly and honestly to loved ones, leading to misunderstanding or conflict? Are you navigating a life transition—such as a new job, becoming a parent, or the loss of a loved one—but don’t know how to juggle it all?  

Perhaps your life at the moment seems unmanageable. Between the responsibilities and demands you face at work and home, you might feel overwhelmed, anxious, or depressed. If you can’t shut work off after hours, it may be straining your close relationships.

However, rather than being comfortable discussing these mounting pressures with others, showing vulnerability may be difficult. Even though you are suffering, you might keep it to yourself for fear of disappointing others.  

You Might Have Trouble Expressing Yourself 

Whenever daily stressors reach a boiling point, you might overreact and quickly become short-tempered and angry or, conversely, become numb and feel emotionally detached. Because imprints from your past inform how you think and feel as an adult, perhaps you don’t have a Rolodex of emotions to draw from to navigate daily challenges, which leaves you frustrated. Instead, you might engage in avoidant behaviors—such as gambling or drinking—to decompress. Although these distractions may help in the short term, they don’t address the deeper issues that continue to mount. 

If stress and uncertainty make it difficult to cope, therapy for men offers solutions. By providing a blueprint that addresses your specific concerns, men’s counseling can help you connect with your emotions and address issues related to anger management, self-esteem, work-life balance psychology, and empowerment.

Vulnerability Is Often Viewed As Weakness In Our Culture

Constructing masculinity in today's age is complicated. While there is an expectation for us to be vulnerable, vulnerability is also seen by many as a sign of weakness and fragility. Caught in a double bind, we often feel damned if we keep our emotions to ourselves and damned if we share our fears and insecurities with others.  

For Men, Stigmas Surrounding Mental Health Persist

Although utilizing therapy to address mental health concerns has become increasingly normalized, societal expectations continue to discourage men from expressing vulnerability. The shame surrounding asking for outside help prevents many men from seeking counseling. In fact, between 2019 and 2021, women were almost twice as likely as men to attend therapy. [1]  

When we rebuff professional help, our instincts for coping often involve looking for ways to increase pleasure and avoid pain.

Unaddressed shame and confusion lead many of us to turn toward external sources of mental reprieve, like working overtime, tuning out with video games, or, in some instances, substances. As a result, immediate relief wins out over long-term gains, which can push us into a downward spiral. Sadly, the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) reported that the suicide rate among men in 2021 was almost four times higher than the suicide rate among women. [1] 

For some, therapy is a necessity, while for others, it is a luxury. No matter where you may fall on the spectrum, therapy offers a safe space to discuss your challenges and how you feel about them. With men’s counseling services, you can develop greater self-awareness while cultivating healthier coping mechanisms to handle daily stressors. 

Therapy For Men Can Help You Gain Insight And Develop Better Coping Skills  

There is no question that you face a dilemma as a modern man: While society values emotional attunement, it also expects you to operate within the framework of traditional gender norms.

We understand how hard it can be to acknowledge your lack of control and certainty while also being open to learning nuanced strategies to respond to life’s challenges.  

It can be challenging to find healthy ways to navigate your emotions and reactions without proper guidance. This difficulty is further amplified if you've been constrained by traditional gender roles in expressing yourself. At Nobile Psychology, our counselors specialize in men's mental health, offering expertise in helping men expand their emotional fluency and coping strategies. 

What To Expect In Sessions

In therapy for men, the first step will be to identify your challenges so we can individualize an effective treatment plan. Your therapist will want to see things from your point of view so that they understand how you see the world. Ensuring you become the utmost expert of yourself begins with psychoeducation to help normalize your experience, lift any shame you may be feeling, and provide you with newfound insight.  

Once you better understand the underlying reasons why you may be jumping to anger quickly, feeling overwhelmed, or numbing out emotionally, we will equip you with tangible tools that expand your coping capacity.

By helping you change how you make sense of, and respond to the world around you, we aim to provide you with the skills and insight necessary to navigate life’s problems with more confidence and ease. 

We Provide Evidence-Based Therapy For Men Tailored To Your Needs 

We incorporate evidence-based modalities, treatments, and interventions—such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), and Internal Family Systems (IFS)—to address the pressing issues that many men face today.  

CBT for men can help reduce psychological suffering by identifying and challenging any unhelpful or inflexible core beliefs you hold about yourself. Noticing and changing negative thinking patterns encourages your reactions to what’s happening around you to change as well. Additionally, we may prescribe behavioral activation—engaging in activities you enjoy—if you are suffering from depression. 

DBT for men offers hands-on coping skills you can apply to life challenges, such as mindfulness, emotional regulation, distress tolerance, problem-solving strategies, and interpersonal effectiveness. With ACT, you will identify what your values are and ensure you are aligning with those values to help you create a meaningful life. IFS speaks to the emotional components of self you may need to better identify, understand, and connect with more deeply. 

It’s okay to admit you need help. By building resilience, coping skills, and self-awareness, therapy for men can help you navigate life issues more deftly, improve work-life balance, and find more fulfillment and emotional richness in your relationships.  

But You May Have Some Concerns About Therapy For Men…

I’m not sure I can afford to work with a men’s therapist.  

Although our practice is considered an out-of-network provider, most insurance companies provide 50-80 percent reimbursement for men's counseling services. To expedite this process, we've partnered with Mentaya, a service that streamlines insurance reimbursement for your therapy sessions through out-of-network benefits. Mentaya takes the burden of filing claims off of you to ensure you receive maximum benefits from your provider.    

I have a full schedule and am not sure I can attend therapy regularly.

We understand that being busy can make it seem like there’s no time left for men’s counseling. However, taking care of your mental health is an investment in yourself that can improve your overall productivity and well-being. Think of therapy that addresses men’s issues as a powerful tool to help you navigate your busy life more smoothly, rather than an additional burden. To make counseling for men convenient, we offer sessions online and in-person therapy with early morning, evening, and weekend appointments available. 

How can I be sure that working with a men’s counselor will help me?

Along with our breadth and depth of training in psychopathology, the therapists at Nobile Psychology are committed to staying up to date on the latest research and techniques for men’s mental health. Because we specialize in individually tailored evidence-based care, you can be confident that we prioritize fundamental change. The results of men’s counseling usually become noticeable after the first 6-8 sessions, with long-lasting gains taking hold after 3-6 months of treatment. 

Allow Us To Guide You Toward A Better Version Of Yourself

At Nobile Psychology, we aim to help you build insight and give you concrete tools to improve your quality of life. To get started with counseling or inquire about our support group for men, you can email us, use the contact form, or call 631-546-5547 to schedule a free, 15-minute phone consultation. 

[1] https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db444.htm   https://www.cdc.gov/suicide/facts/data.html